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What Gay and Bi Men Really Want
Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?
Following on from his research into what direct women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next logical step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.
In order to dig deeper and pull out a true list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this method of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.
Qualities the lgbtq+ and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities show in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The same comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.
The 5 best things about being a gay man
Growing up, I spent so much time and energy trying to hide who I was because I bought into mainstream society’s beliefs about what it means to be gay.
I saw myself as less than, puny, disgusting, defective, and simply not fine enough. I constantly measured myself up against straight men, and my internal belief system told me I wasn’t adequate.
After many years of working through my own shame around being homosexual and processing my own internalized homophobia, I began to see the pale within me. People always told me I had this light, but I didn’t allow it to shine because shame told me to dim it.
A lot of this work came down to me accepting myself for exactly who I am, and an aspect of that was being a queer man.
I now notice being gay as a beautiful tribute I have been given. The present of being alternative and finding power in that difference. The gift of being able to pull me out of many years of suffering and redeem myself as someone who I am proud of today.
Being gay to me is a small part of who I am. It makes up an aspect of my self-concept, a
What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship
Some gay men place up with a lot in their relationships. Their long-term partners will aggressively flirt with other men in front of them, go home with a guy from the bar without any forewarning, sleep with ex-lovers without gaining consent from their current lover, or brag to their current boyfriends about the quality of their sex with strangers. Ouch.
Here&#;s what I find most concerning. Some gay men don&#;t feel they have a right to be upset about these behaviors. They&#;ll ask me why they feel so jealous and how can I help them let go of their resentment. They think that the queer community believes in sexual liberty and it isn&#;t cool or manly to object to their partner&#;s sexual behavior.
In other words, they feel shame for experiencing hurt by the actions of their long-term partners.
Heterosexual couples acquire plenty of social support for treating their partners with respect when it comes to sex. Outrage is the typical social response when friends are told about poor relationship behavior among straight people. When gay men tell
10 Things Gay Men Should Discuss
Top 10 Things Same-sex attracted Men Should Discuss with Their Healthcare Provider
Following are the health issues GLMA&#x;s healthcare providers have identified as most commonly of concern for gay men. While not all of these items apply to everyone, it&#x;s wise to be aware of these issues.
1. Come Out to Your Primary Healthcare Provider
In order to provide you with the best tend possible, your primary tend provider should know you are gay. Knowing your sexual orientation and sexual behaviors will help your healthcare provider offer the correct preventative screenings, and order the appropriate tests. If your provider does not seem comfortable with you as a same-sex attracted man, find another source. You can consult the LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory for facilitate finding a provider.
2. Reducing the Risk of Getting or Transmitting HIV
Many men who have sex with men are at an increased risk of getting HIV, but the ability to prevent the acquisition and transmission of HIV has improved drastically in recent years. If you are living with HIV, anti-HIV medications can aid